When your family doesn't understand why you're on medication

It stings when my mom keeps saying I should just eat less and exercise, like the 51 lbs I've lost happened by accident. My sister made a passive aggressive comment at dinner about "taking the easy way out" and I barely had the energy to explain that this is a medical condition, not a willpower contest. Does anyone else get tired of defending their choice, or have you found a way to shut those conversations down gracefully?

I stopped explaining after a while and just let the results talk. My brother made the easy way out comment once and I said nothing, next time he saw me he didn't say it again.

The dinner comment would bug me too. My sister asked if I was "cheating" and I just said my labs say otherwise, then passed the potatoes.

I'm only a couple pounds in and already got the "so you're just cheating?" thing from my brother in law. Maybe it's easier to shrug off once the results are visible to everyone else

idk, does your mom know the actual diagnosis behind it? Mine eased off once she heard it framed as a hormone thing, not a diet shortcut

My mom said the same thing until she watched me still counting every bite at thanksgiving. The shot didn't do the chewing for me

My mom said the same thing until she watched me white-knuckle a plate of cookies at a birthday party and still feel full. Now she just asks how it's going

Do you find it lands better when you ask her a question back instead? My dad stopped lecturing once I started asking him about his own blood pressure instead of explaining myself.

Does the easy way out comment come from your sister or is it more your mom? I ask because i noticed mine only pushes when she has an audience

My mom pulled the "just eat less" line too until I pointed out she's been on thyroid meds for years and nobody calls that cheating. That comparison seemed to land better than any explanation I'd tried

My sister said the same thing and I just started asking her how her marathon training was going. She has not mentioned my meds since

Does your mom know the 51 came off while you were eating the same meals? Mine eased up once she actually watched me do it, she just assumed I was starving myself until she saw my plate

honestly, my sister asked if I was "still doing the shots" like it's a phase I'll grow out of. Now I just say yes and ask about her kids.

The food noise line is the one that finally clicked for my family

My own mom came around eventually, not because I explained anything better but because she watched me keep the weight off for months. Some people need the evidence to pile up before the lecture stops

Does your mom know it's a hormone thing and not just appetite? Mine came around a little once her own doctor brought it up at a checkup, not because of anything I said.

tbh the one-liner thing is easier said than done when it's your mom, though. Something about a parent's comment lands differently than a sibling's

My brother said the same thing until he watched me get full halfway through a plate of pasta and just stop. He hasn't made a peep since, so I've decided the results can do the talking for me.

Do you ever just let the comment sit there and not answer it? I used to jump in and explain every time, now I just nod and pass the potatoes.

My mom came around not from the explanation but from watching me get full halfway through a plate and stop anyway. Something about seeing it happen at her own table did more than any argument I tried